My name is
Dr. Arpita Gupta DePalma
I am a devoted wife, passionate mother and daughter, part-time pediatrician, CEO, Practice Co-Founder, Entrepreneur, and mindset coach for professional women.
I am a devoted wife, passionate mother and daughter, part-time pediatrician, CEO, Practice Co-Founder, Entrepreneur, and mindset coach for professional women.
My life had been seamlessly structured and built into such a “perfect” balance that was almost always under my control. In my mind, there was little to no room for error, minimal flexibility to account for other people, and by all means, no room for a worldwide pandemic. Whenever unexpected problems emerged in the past, I simply applied myself and overcame them, as I always had.
But these new circumstances created a sense of having no control over anything. Despite everything I had accomplished and believed to be in my control, I grew increasingly anxious keeping my businesses, home life, and just everything up to A+ standards, including my emotional well-being. I unknowingly was blaming the unwelcomed surprises in life for my growing feelings of resentment and agitation towards others.
was I able to take the time to reflect and realize how increasingly frustrated I had become and how unfulfilling each routine work day was for me.
I beat myself up for not using my training to it’s full extent; for not parenting like a supermom; for not finishing my endless To-Do list; and for just about anything I could justify as having not been done perfectly. My pursuit of perfectionism in all aspects of my life was preventing me from appreciating the joys in life. I was mindlessly attempting to move towards some future promise of happiness while at the same time not realizing how unhappy I was during the entire ride. I finally was beginning to understand what ‘arrival fallacy’ was and realized this was how I would continue to live if I didn’t make a change.
Through podcasts, physician coaching programs and mastering the coach certification program with The Life Coach School, I began to manage my mind. It was baffling to realize that as a physician I never grasped that my thoughts created my feelings. I was blaming everyone and everything outside of me for how I felt. And those feelings of resentment, frustration, insecurity, jealousy, fear, etc. all impacted how I was showing up in the world, and not in a good way. I was determined to make a change. I had only a few precious years left with my children at home before leaving the nest, and I was determined to make the best of that time.
Pursuing a career in Pediatrics was always so fulfilling for me because I was able to help others heal and I felt the joy and constant gratitude being able to do so. After incorporating changes in the way I thought about things, I noticed an astonishing difference in my awareness and overall coping skills. I noticed how gradually I was able to change how I handled difficult situations, my interactions with others, and maximize my compassion and potential.
Am I perfect? No way.
Am I still learning? Of Course, because we all have set backs. As humans, we need to remind ourselves of the tools in our tool belt and practice them regularly until they become automatic. Nobody is perfect.
Am I so much better than I was? Absolutely.
I want to share with you my new perspective and skillset that I have incorporated into my life.
Allow me to help you heal, and then transform, into the best possible version of yourself that you can be.
Put yourself first for once.
Commit to your own self-care and development and learn to make changes that will completely change how you think about things.
My logo represents the transformation our minds can all undergo, similar to that of a caterpillar as it gains its wings to emerge as a beautiful new butterfly.
You’ve probably heard about how caterpillars form a chrysalis or cocoon — eventually emerging as a completely different species.
But what does this process of transformation entail?
The caterpillar first digests itself and releases enzymes to dissolve its tissues.
A small group of highly organized cells survives this process.
These cells eventually reassemble and grow into the new butterfly.
Like a butterfly, our process of radical personal transformation can look pretty similar.
And no, we don’t literally dissolve into a pool of enzymes. But emotionally, we must allow ourselves to fall apart.
Falling apart and crying is completely OK and this represents the physical manifestation of you letting go. It is the process of allowing the old you to die. And, it is the first step to rebuilding something beautifully new, the new you.
This doesn’t mean you’ll become a whole new person. You are you, and that is enough.
Sometimes, you just need a little mindset coaching to help you achieve your goals.
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