People assume that setting boundaries only comes from a place of negativity, but, this is not necessarily the case.
The boundaries you establish are there to allow you to love and respect yourself.
Other people are allowed to set boundaries as well, and that shouldn’t offend you.
Here’s an example:
Are you bothered by your sister showing up unannounced with her kids every weekend to enjoy some time at your backyard pool? She may think you enjoy it as much as they do, and that this is a great time for family bonding. She may not realize that this may be more of an obligation to you or an imposition every weekend.
Try setting boundaries and telling your sister that you love having them over… when you have planned it in advance.
Let your sister know that you would love it if she called the week before to see if the weekend works with you for some pool time.
Let her know, that if she just shows up, the pool may be covered or you may not be able to let them in.
She may be unaware that showing up randomly crosses a line, especially if it is just part of the weekly routine at this point.
It is okay to inform her and set the boundary!
Boundaries do not have to come from a negative place, create them from a place of love.
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