Arrival fallacy is this illusion that once we make it, once we attain our goal or reach our destination, we will reach lasting happiness.
So instead of feeling grateful, happy, and inspired when you get there, you feel… underwhelmed. 😥
It can apply to all phases of life…
– whether you’re a teenager who just KNOWS that you’ll finally be happy as soon as you get your driver’s license,
– a student who is waiting to feel feelings of freedom til after you graduate,
– a professional working hard in your career to get that promotion or fancy corner office,
– an entrepreneur busting your butt to make 500K this year
– or even a young adult just waiting to feel happy until you’re married and have children with the perfect house and dog. 🤔
We think that we will FEEL happy when we get there, when we reach that impossible goal.
And all along the way while we are focused only how we think we will feel at the finish line, we miss the point of enjoying the journey.
And then, when we finally get there, we don’t celebrate it, it isn’t as big of a deal as we thought, or we move onto the next best thing right away.
Because honestly, every time when you do get there, you will have a whole new set of problems to deal with in that era of your life.
Because, after all, life is 50/50, right? You are going to have the good AND the bad wherever you are in your timeline.
Start paying attention to your goals and the types of feelings you are hoping to generate from achieving those goals.
Then ask yourself, what could you start to think that empowers you to generate those feelings right NOW?? 👏🏼
For instance, let’s say you just know that as soon as you lose 10 pounds you will feel happy, confident, and sexy.
What are some things that you can do right now, today, to generate those feelings of happiness, confidence, and feeling like a hottie? 🤔
Increasing your awareness is the first step to changing the way you choose to think about things.
And changing the way you think about things is how you change your results. 👏🏾
Reach out to me today if you’re ready to walk along a new path…
a path that empowers you to be exceptional. 🦋
