Being a couple can be a wonderful life experience, but it does not come without its challenges. When conflict arises, it is important to recognize your own thoughts around the relationship.
Why do you feel the way you do?
Are you reacting from a place of anger?
Do you falsely blame the other person?
Do you just have to be the one who is right?
The need to be right costs us so much.
But what does being right really get you?
A sense of indulgent satisfaction… A false sense of power…
Is it worth ultimately costing you the intimacy in your relationship?
Give up the need to be right.
When you do this, it removes the need for defense and then removes the need for offense.
-Identify the conflict.
-Let your partner tell you why they are right. You don’t get a turn.
-Agree on what the FACTS are in the situation- provable in a court of law.
-Be curious as to what each of you is making it mean.
-And then talk only about possible solutions with no more rehashing of the problem.
The only person who can control your thoughts is YOU! When faced with conflict, decide who you want yourself to be, and how you want to act going forward.
