As a couple, you may consider yourself a unit. But, a couple is composed of two different people with their own thoughts and feelings. When a couple has opposing thoughts toward a situation, the feelings that are generated may lead to conflicting reactions and results.
Our brains do what is easy, and we automatically jump to our old patterned thoughts when a conflict arises.
“He didn’t pick up his clothes and doesn’t care about me and all I have to do.”
“I always have to drive the kids, he never adjusts his schedule.”
“He didn’t buy me anything for my birthday and never seems to do anything to make me happy.”
“He didn’t listen to my advice and doesn’t care about my perspective.”
Could there be another reason?
Are you unnecessarily making your partner’s actions or inactions an attack on you?
Try being curious and come from a place of love when this happens.
“Why might he/she be acting that way?”
“What would someone else’s perspective be on this situation?”
“How could I look at this scenario differently?”
“Why am I making this a problem?”
I can help you learn to practice new approaches that will change your ingrained neural pathways when addressing conflicts.
Set up a discovery call with me for a one on one coaching session to get started today.
