Does being angry feel powerful to you?

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You’ve heard it before, we argue with those closest to us BECAUSE they mean the most to us. 💔

Because we expect so much from them (even though oftentimes our expectations are unsaid).

Because we want them to do better (because of what we make that mean).

Because they love us (and we think they won’t ever leave us).

Because it feels POWERFUL to be right…

There’s always a justification… but are they really true and serving us?

If you’re arguing all the time, possibly just because it feels good to be right, perhaps something could stand to change.

The thing is, our brains do what has become familiar and easy.

That means, if we’ve fallen into the habit of creating conflict to exert our power with being right, our brain will continue with the tendency of picking fights to get the dopamine hit from this false sense of feeling in control. 🤷🏻

But what is being right really getting you?

Are you enjoying the ultimate lack of emotional connection with your partner for life?

Conflict resolution that incorporates approaching disagreements from a place of love and curiosity, rather than resentment and the need to show why you are right, tends to be the most productive.

The next time you find yourself in conflict with your partner, try being curious and asking:

🔹 “Why might he/she be acting that way?”

🔹 “What is a perspective that I am not considering in this situation?”

🔹 “How could I look at this scenario differently?”

🔹 “Why am I making this a problem?”

🔹 “What is being right here really getting me?”

I can help you learn new approaches to conflict resolution that will adjust the ingrained neural pathways that are preventing you from living a truly loving life.

Click the link in my bio to set up a Discovery Consultation with me for a one-on-one session to get started today. 🦋