Setting boundaries can feel scary, especially if you are used to putting others’ needs before your own. 👀
The thing is, taking care of yourself is the best way to truly care for others. When you put others first, you are sending an inadvertent message that your needs don’t matter. And, you may be giving up your agency.
If you’ve never set firm boundaries before, it can at first seem like a negative experience, and you might fear that people will find you unlikeable, or, worse, that they won’t respect your boundaries once you finally let them be known. 😰
Having the courage to express the standards for how you want to be treated and being willing to walk away from any situation or relationship that makes you feel bad about yourself takes effort. It can be uncomfortable. But, comfort doesn’t change you.
Would you be offended if your friends or family expressed their limits in your relationship? 🤔
You get to decide if their request works for you.
If it is something that aligns with your values.
And if it doesn’t, it isn’t an attack on you.
You can still love them.
And likewise, the reverse scenario with you setting boundaries is also true.
For example, let’s say every time your mom calls you, she wants to talk about politics…but you are on opposite ends of the spectrum. The next time she calls you can say “I’m happy to talk about anything but politics.” And then if she refuses to respect your boundaries, I’m sure you can find a loving way to get pulled away from the call…
If you’re ready to learn how to set boundaries that change your relationship dynamics, then schedule a Discovery Consultation with me today and let me show you how it’s done. 🦋