Does anger ever feel like power?
Sometimes we argue with the people we love the most—not because we don’t care, but because we do.
We expect more from them.
We want them to act differently.
We assume their love means they’ll stay, even if things get heated.
And often, we want to be right.
But here’s the honest truth:
Being “right” can feel powerful… in the moment.
But over time, it often leaves us feeling disconnected and emotionally distant from the very people we want to feel close to. 💔
Our brains naturally repeat what feels familiar—even if it’s not helpful.
If conflict has become a habit, a way to feel control or release frustration, it can start to feel like the only option.
But that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.
✨ What if instead of defending your position, you paused to be curious?
Next time conflict arises, ask yourself:
Why might they be acting this way?
What might I be missing?
Is this really a problem—or just uncomfortable?
What am I making this mean?
And most importantly… what is being right actually giving me?
Healing starts when we soften our grip on control and lead with curiosity instead of criticism.
If you’re ready to shift the way you respond in conflict and rebuild connection from a grounded, loving place, I’d love to help.
Let’s talk: https://thoughtworkmd.com/chat 💜
