Conflict is a natural part of any relationship.
It doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It means you’re two different humans—each with your own perspectives, histories, and ways of moving through the world. That’s not a flaw; it’s just real life.
But when we fear conflict or label it as “bad,” we often show up in ways that only deepen our pain.
Maybe it looks like blaming.
Maybe it’s bringing up the past to prove a point.
Maybe it’s going silent, hoping they’ll feel your anger without saying a word.
It’s understandable. We want to feel seen and validated. But here’s the hard truth:
They don’t feel your feelings. You do.
Your pain, frustration, and anger—those are all living inside you, not them. And when you stew in it, hoping they’ll finally get it, it’s usually you who ends up hurting the most.
Here’s the shift:
Instead of trying to control how they feel, you can choose how you want to feel.
You can approach conflict with curiosity, not combat.
With connection, not control.
Because the goal isn’t to “win.”
It’s to feel better, love better, and move forward together—or more peacefully apart.
✨ If this resonates, take a quiet moment to check in with yourself.
What would it feel like to respond instead of react next time?
That’s where change begins. https://thoughtworkmd.com/chat/
