Anger gets a bad rap—but most of the time, it’s not even the real issue.
It’s a cover for something deeper.
Fear.
Shame.
Disappointment.
Resentment.
That urgent, buzzy feeling like everything is out of control.
Sound familiar?
When something—or someone—sets you off, your brain might rush to anger because it feels safer than vulnerability.
So instead of feeling hurt… you lash out.
Instead of pausing… you retaliate.
But here’s the hard truth: that cycle? It doesn’t hurt them as much as it hurts you.
You’re the one sitting in the angst.
You’re the one carrying the tension.
And you’re the only one who can interrupt that pattern.
It starts with awareness.
Noticing when it’s happening.
Paying attention to what your brain is telling you in that moment.
And then—getting curious instead of reactive.
What’s really going on underneath that anger?
This is the foundation of what I teach my clients:
How to build a personal anger protocol—a clear, doable plan that helps you handle your triggers with intention, not regret.
You can train yourself to respond differently.
But it doesn’t happen by accident.
It happens by deciding ahead of time who you want to be when the fire flares up.
So ask yourself:
💭 What sets me off?
💭 What’s the story my brain tells me in those moments?
💭 And how can I pause long enough to choose a different way?
Curiosity is everything.
And having a plan? That’s your golden ticket to reclaiming your peace.
🦋 Ready to create your custom anger protocol with me?
Let’s do this work together. You’ll be amazed at what shifts.
