Ever had that “I’ll be happy when…” thought?
When I lose 10 pounds.
When I get the promotion.
When I make $500K.
When I find the perfect partner.
When I finally have the house, the kids, and the dog.
That’s arrival fallacy—the belief that happiness magically begins when you “get there.”
The truth? When you arrive, you’ll have a whole new set of challenges. Because life is always 50/50—good and bad—no matter where you are on the timeline.
And while you’re waiting for that perfect destination, you’re missing the point: the journey is where your life is happening.
So instead of asking, “When will I finally feel happy?”
Try asking, “How can I feel that way right now?”
If you think losing weight will make you feel confident—what can you do today to spark that confidence?
If you think a promotion will make you proud—how can you start celebrating your wins this week?
You don’t have to wait to arrive to start feeling the way you want to feel.
And when you learn to do that? That’s when everything shifts. 🦋
Ready to stop chasing and start living?
Let’s talk.
