💛 Here’s the truth about boundaries:
They’re not about controlling other people.
They’re about staying in alignment with you.
If we could control what others say or do, life would be so much easier, right? I’d be queen of the world by now. 👑
But we can’t. And that’s okay—because boundaries aren’t about them. They’re about how you choose to respond.
🧭 Real boundaries are rooted in self-responsibility.
They sound like:
✨ “I’m happy to have you over, and if you choose to smoke, I’ll ask you to step outside.”
✨ “I’d love to go to lunch—and I’m inviting a few others too, just in case you run late.”
✨ “I’m excited to spend the weekend with you, and I’ll also carve out alone time to recharge.”
None of these are threats. They’re gentle, honest statements of care—for you and the relationship.
The power in a boundary isn’t in what you say.
It’s in whether you follow through.
If you set a boundary but don’t honor it, you chip away at your own self-trust—and you teach others to do the same.
🌿 Boundaries require love.
The kind of love that says:
“I see you. I accept you. And I will also take care of myself.”
Master coach Brooke Castillo says,
“Love is always an option, and love is always the best option.”
Loving yourself unconditionally means respecting your limits.
And loving others unconditionally means letting go of trying to change or control them.
When you set boundaries with calm, clarity, and compassion—and then honor them—you’re not being harsh.
You’re choosing truth over performance.
You’re practicing real, embodied self-love.
And from that place?
Anything becomes possible. 🦋 https://thoughtworkmd.com/chat/
