How often do you catch yourself saying negative things to yourself in your mind?
This unrecognized habit often starts when we are children, yet we would never ever say those words out loud to our 5 year old selves.
The sentences in our mind can include judgement of yourself and others. And when they are repetitive, they become our beliefs.
But, judgement is optional.
Ask yourself why you have formed a judgement about someone, some group, or some thing.
When did you first start thinking that? Why?
Do you even remember?
Even though your viewpoint may be something you have rethought over and over again throughout the years, what put it there?
And, is it serving you?
Because, you know you can choose to let that judgement go if you want…
This goes for the negative thoughts you my have about yourself as well. What thoughts do you catch yourself thinking that are holding you back?
Do your thoughts make you feel unworthy or undeserving?
The way you feel is simply due to the thoughts you have created about yourself.
And, your thoughts are optional.
So compartmentalize your brain into the areas where you find your most prominent thoughts, such as:
🦋Memories
🦋Planning
🦋Self talk
🦋Judgements
🦋Gratitude
🦋Positivity, etc.
Is there enough in the positive buckets?
Or are the negative ones more full?
Go through the content of these buckets and decide which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to replace.
Similar to cleaning out your closet. And think about how you would motivate the 5 yo version of yourself with compassion, unconditional support and love, like @Hannah_Waddingham did so amazingly in this scene.
Saying goodbye to the negative thoughts you have may be the best holiday gift you can give to yourself.
Not sure where to start? Let’s work together to say those goodbyes!