There’s a lot of talk these days about “toxic people.”
But here’s the truth: there’s actually no such thing as a toxic person. 😲
Other people can’t crawl inside your brain and control how you feel. What happens is this: they say or do something, your brain has a thought about it, and that thought generates your feeling.
So when you label someone else as “toxic” and try to remove them in order to feel better, you’re actually giving away your power. Because the reality is ,we don’t get to control other people.
What we can control is how we respond. We can choose how we show up. We can decide how much power we give to someone else’s words or behavior.
If you find yourself drained by people you’ve labeled “toxic,” here’s what I want you to try instead:
✔️ Ignore the bait. Don’t let others press your buttons. Redirect or change the subject.
✔️ Stay out of gossip. It takes two to keep the cycle going, choose not to participate.
✔️ Be clear and direct. Ask simple questions, set boundaries with your words.
✔️ Manage your emotions. When you know how to process your feelings, you stop being so easily hijacked by someone else’s behavior.
This isn’t about excusing poor behavior—it’s about reclaiming your own agency. Because you don’t need to cut “toxic people” out of your life to find peace. You need to learn how to stop letting their behavior dictate your experience. 💯
If you’re ready to take back that power and create more peace no matter who’s in the room, I’d love to help you get started. 🦋
