We’ve ALL done it…
You know… that moment when you reach for the wine, the phone, or the cookie… just to take the edge off? 🍷📱🍪
That’s called buffering.
It’s what we do when we want to escape uncomfortable emotions—stress, frustration, loneliness, boredom, sadness—just for a little while.
And it works… temporarily.
But the relief never lasts, because buffering doesn’t actually solve the feeling underneath—it just pauses it. Then that same emotion sneaks back in stronger, and the cycle starts all over again.
Here’s the truth: feeling bad isn’t the problem.
Avoiding it is.
When life throws something hard your way, you’ve got four choices:
1️⃣ Avoid it (buffer).
2️⃣ Resist it (pretend it’s fine).
3️⃣ React to it (lash out or spiral).
4️⃣ Or allow it.
That last one? That’s where your power lives.
Allowing emotion doesn’t mean you like it—it means you stop fighting it. You breathe through it. You let it move through you instead of burying it.
It takes practice. It takes patience. It takes trust in yourself.
But when you stop buffering and start feeling, you stop running from your life—and start fully living it.
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