What happens when you can’t turn your outbursts off

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What happens when you can’t turn your outbursts off?
 
The display of anger can be frightening for a child to witness, even if it’s not in the form of screaming or swearing. 😡
 
You really do want to be able to role-model appropriate responses through tough emotions. But for some reason you just haven’t been able to do so in the heat of that moment…
 
So, try these steps out… 🤔
 
🙅🏻 First, make a promise to yourself that you are going to make a SINCERE commitment to yourself to make a change. And that change starts with building your awareness on what things tend to set you off…
 
What things have led you to scream, swat at, threaten, punish, swear, or name-call when you are angry (like failing to capture the perfect picture together)?? Write them down…
 
👃🏼 Next, check in and recognize where in your body you feel it when you start to feel angry. When you can be more aware on how your body responds internally when you are angry, you can start to learn how to divert the response instead of reacting in a way you may regret later.
 
💆🏻‍♀️Then, when you feel your body’s signal of your anger coming on, excuse yourself from the situation and give yourself a moment to breathe, experience the anger and label it, and then process it so it passes. You can tell your child you are doing this. “Mommy is feeling angry and needs a minute to calm down. I am going to sit on the chair for a minute and have a time out.”
 
👏🏼 From there, you get to decide if you want to go back right then and calmly RESPOND to whatever situation was triggering your anger in the first place,
OR… you can decide to revisit it later when you feel best prepared to better address it.